When it comes to recognizing positive traits about oneself, it can often be difficult. If a stranger were to stop you on the street and say, “what are your three most positive traits,” do you even know what you would answer? I think I’d need ten minutes at least to pull something out of thin air and then spend the rest of the day wishing I hadn’t said, “eating and staying regular.”
BUT. One thing I know I’m good at is keeping in touch with friends. Two of my favorite people live on opposite sides of the country from me (Brooklyn and Portland, OR) so obviously time together is limited. Yet, sometimes it can even be difficult to see the friends who live down the street (#lame). Being a working mom does not equal abundant social time.
Despite all this, I make a huge effort to keep in touch (one might even say I’m obsessive about it).
Here are a few of my tried and true methods for keeping in touch with your galpals who you love but don’t have time to see.
Gchat. While IM was all the rage in college (how was that over 10 years ago?) now I have a few gchat friends. We chat now and again and surprisingly, despite never actually hearing each other’s voices or seeing each other’s faces, we manage to use this tool to really stay present in each other’s lives. I probably know more about my gchat friends’ lives than Ryan’s.
Email. I mean, obviously. But, there is a method to my email madness. I have only one friend I consistently email with and those emails tend to be epic in length I keep them to once or twice a month and that’s it. Enough to keep up with each other’s lives, not so much that it takes up too much time during the day.
Text. Again, obviously. But, I use this with a few group texts and that’s about it unless I have specific questions. This is how I stay in touch with my Deerfield crew. Most of them are SAHMs, so they have their phones on them and are up for a quick text, but their ability to email all day? Not so much.
All in all, I’ve learned to tailor my communication to the person.
Are you at a desk all day and have your gmail open? Gchat is the way to go.
Are you at a desk but don’t ghcat? Email has to be it.
Are you on the go with children hanging off your every limb? Texting it is.
One day I will have to get over my fear of actually talking on the phone and give this tip from Cup of Jo a try.
Having my core group of ladies is extremely important to my mental health and so I make it a point to stay in touch.
How do you stay in touch? Do you ever actually *gasp* write handwritten notes? Or even more *gasp*, talk on the phone?
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